though the instructions advise me to avoid replying to other
reviews, I feel that I need to address certain misconceived
notions about F&M in light of other comments.
by saying that I think F&M is absurdly, overwhelmingly underrated,
and should beat quite a few of the top 40
liberal arts schools, at least in terms of academics.
going into my sophomore year, and I cannot do anything
but praise F&M. It was not my first choice,
and maybe not even my second, but I am so
grateful that I ended up here.
The problem with
F&M is not the school itself. We have incredible
staff who virtually beg students to come in for office
hours. We do not have TAs. The academics
at F&M are extremely challenging whether you are an English
major or a Neuroscience major. Although, I've found that
my classes share many parellels despite their seemingly glaring differences.
F&M also has ample opportunity for students to join clubs,
gain leadership experience, and seriously make a difference.
is not F&M. Alas, the problem is that students
like to complain about what F&M “lacks.” These gaps
include things like parts of dining hall not being open
on weekends (that would be KIVO [kosher international vegan organic],
which needs to be closed on weekends in order to
be considered kosher certified), and other petty concerns.
at F&M, and I suppose this could be considered the
“problem” with the school, are very privileged and think good
fortune and success should be handed to them on a
If you think you fall into that category,
then don't waste your money on college at all.
College is supposed to be challenging, and it's supposed to
push you to try things you never thought you would
try, and meet people you never thought you would meet.
College is different than high school. High school is
all about going through the motions, beating the system, playing
the game. Everyone says that the 'real world' starts
after college. I think that is a ridiculous notion.
You have to look at college as the real
world and take it seriously, or else you are wasting
the 4 best years of your life.
Anyway, now that
I've rambled a ton, I'll give a bit of random
advice that may or may not be useful to you.
Party scene: We are the epitome of work hard play
hard. And we party a lot. Sororities can't
hold parties, but frats can, so the 7 frats host
parties that are all completely different scenes. Give frats
a chance, but also go with friends. They aren't
fun if you don't know people there already.
teams often have lofts, which are sorta like apartments off
campus, and those are fun, but they don't pass out
fliers like frats do.
If you make friends with juniors
and seniors (you should), they usually have apartments in college
row across campus, or in the lofts. They're usually
a little more low key, but that is relative.
usually go out Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays, but I try
not to go out thursday if I have too much
work (it's about working your ass off all day so
you can go out at night).
F&M parties are fun,
sometimes they get old— it's a lot more fun if
you are outgoing and aren't afraid to talk to people.
Oh, and it's a lot easier to meet people if
you're a girl. Just a fact.
Greek Life: Not for
everyone. I'm a member of Greek life, and I
really love it (to my complete surprise...I had no intentions
of joining a sorority when I came to f&m), but
it definitely isn't for anyone. It's a great way
to meet a TON of people. I think my
favorite aspect of it is that greek life (more so
sororities than fraternities, to be honest) gives you ample opportunity
to gain leadership roles and experience. A lot of
it is tangible, and applicable to any job after college.
Students: Most students are from PA, NJ, and Fairfield
County (CT), but there are also a good amount of
international students. Most students are really wealthy—some make this
known, others don't. Some people complain that students aren't
engaged or interested in the world, and this is somewhat
true. It's sort of surprising that there are students
who have never heard of really important news events, but
I guess that's the nature of college.
It's totally possible
to find friends who don't buy into superficiality, who are
really smart, and who also have fun...it's just a matter
of finding them. That's why it's so important to
get involved in as much as you can or feel
comfortable with, becuase that's how you meet tons of interesting
The only other thing I want to add, is
that Lancaster is NOT safe at night. Sorry to
say this but there have been more mugging cases than
there should be. With that said, F&M public safety
(psafe) is AMAZINGamazingamazing. If you are on college property,
they have your back. They also are really lenient
with drinking rules and such. Lancaster police are much
more strict, and aren't always around— moral of the story,
don't walk around off campus alone.
Alright, I could go
on, but I've said a lot already SO good luck
with your college search :) :) and don't look at
that percentage that says whether reviewers would choose to go
back or not...i guarantee it's totally inaccurate.