Bob Jones University

Date: Apr 14 2006
Major: Other (This Major's Salary over time)
All of the experiences below are true, and I have no reason to truthfule otherwise.

In one of my Bible classes at BJU, we were told that if we look at the opposite sex and "got aroused" and spent any time dwelling on the thought that we "lit the fire" and had already commited adultry, and had therefore sinned. Being an 18 yr old male, I pretty much threw in the towel at that point, for committing 100s of dirty thoughts the previous 8 to 10 yrs. You are taught to not only follow the rules of the school but to follow the rules of the Bible (the rules of the school are of the Bible so you better obey them). This is okay, I guess, you are not forced to go there unless your parents make you which mine did. The biggest lesson missed at this school is the development of a realtionship with God. To many of my piers were so depressed because they couldn't simply follow all of these rules. They would just give up and say it was impossible.

I was kicked out because someone said they saw me holding hands with my girlfriend (1 witness). We both denied but were put on restriction anyway. The week my punishment was suppose to be over, I ran into my girlfriend, and said "hey, only a couple of more days" and continued on because as part of the punishment we were not allowed to speak. As fate would have it my dorm supervisor hear me, aparantly he was behind me. I was brough in, asked if I communicted. I told the dean of men what had happened and they kicked me out. I was too embarrassed/ ashamed to tell my parents so I stayed in town and got a job at the mall. A couple of weeks laterI would sit with my girlfriend at Sunday evening services off campus. I was told that it was an extension of school we could not do that or she would be expelled. One day I drove on campus and left flowers for her. A few days later I was sent a letter at the place I was renting. I don't know how they got the address but was told that if I was caught on campus again I would be arrested for tresspassing. Needless to say, I came extreemly close to committing suiside, because of the previous 3 yrs bad experiences. This school almost destroyed me. The above is only one story. I have many. I know girls that were raped by faculty students. I would say that over half of the students there are misaralbe and are forced to live a lie. Unfortunately for many, the school has the right intentions, but the execution of the rules and lack of common sense reasoning is absent. The school is in a bubble for a reason. If word got out that things like this happened what would Christians do. Too many Christians lean on this school as their pillar of faith and rules of the Bible. God taught us to love everyone, and develop a relationship with Him. Not judge. There is so much judgement and hypocracy there it makes me sick. I think people should speak out about the school. So what if it is negative. It could save somones life. If I almost committed suiside there because of my experiences, I know others have.